How to unlock your courage

"You wish" is the response to someone who suggests an apparently impossible wish or an outrages idea. And how interesting is it when that person has actually achieved his or her wish or idea? The interesting question then is: how did he or she do that? And how ironic, the answer to this is simple; because that person has had the courage to do it.

As human beings we experience a lot. However, it is not the event itself that determines our experience, it is the way we deal with it. In other words, how do we represent it to ourselves. The meaning you give to it determines your personal experience. Very often we are not aware of how we do this, because our behaviour is mainly unconsciously controlled. Fortunately, as human beings we can become aware of many things and then decide for ourselves how we will represent it differently for ourselves.

There is only one correct answer to the question: who determines your quality of life? To really know and feel inside you that you are the one who determines how you deal with your life. To realize that you're the one sitting in the driver's seat with the wheel in your hands, yes, it takes courage. You need to value yourself and to love yourself. And for the sake of clarity; it doesn't matter whether you have a chronic illness, can't follow your ideal study, lost your job, got a parking ticket or received the wrong dish in a restaurant. Don’t make an experience a building block to be (or become) the person you truly want to be and live the live you want to live.

Creating Awareness

Human nature may be characterized by two major qualities: reason and emotion. Reason is the ability to think logically. It is an ability that helps us structure causes and consequences of problems and behavior. According to reason, if A occurs, then B will occur. Providing all kinds of logical rationality, reason helps us draw logical, valid conclusions. This is quite helpful and often even indispensable.

Emotion is an ability having to do with feelings. It is at the center of our actions, because it is through emotion that people do things. We move, act, and react to circumstances only when our emotions are involved. Love, desire, anger, and disappointment are some of the forces that drive action.

Although everybody is endowed with both reason and emotion, in some people the emotional side is better developed, while other people are more rational.

Obviously, you will emphasize reason or emotion depending on the situation you are in. When you face an important decision involving many options, you might prefer to use your rational side, while during a brainstorm session you might put more emphasis on your emotional side.

You will get an indication of which quality you use most by filling out the evaluation below. Perhaps you will even be surprised by the outcome.

The purpose of the evaluation not to put you into two distinct categories of rationally and emotionally driven people but rather to clarify what kind of behaviour or which skills stem from which quality. If you learn to recognize such behaviour and skills, you can become more aware of the two basic qualities. You will be able to see under what circumstances you rely on your reason and under what circumstances you rely on your emotions.

Tomorrow you can start working on making a dream agenda, put your goals into an actionable plan. And after that we will give you 5 ways to be courageous specifically for the type of person you are.

Sources: The power of insight by Ingrid Spronck and Thomas Beerepoot and De invloed van gedachten by Christel Mantel